Communication is Hard Work

This post was written awhile back. I still think it is important and would love feedback and the need for clear and kind communication!! Please let me know what you think!! Let's keep this going.

I happened to be discussing my blog's content last night with my son.
His attitude or thinking about my writing style is this: I don't understand what you are saying and no matter how many times I read it, I don't get it, so how then, can I comment? Well, well. Let's look at it this way.

I think that communication is hard work. Whether it is oral or written, making oneself understood to the reader or the listener is indeed a lot of work. This blog is concerned with things that many people do not think about in the average day. Why is that? Well, it is probably because I was born thinking about these things and all people are born differently. Some folks think about what the weather will be, or what the next door neighbor is doing in the yard, or what they will have for their next meal. I, on the other hand, have spent my thinking life, thinking about subjects that others tend NOT to think about. (We will not comment on my weirdness now, will we, RHI? So...to return to communication being hard work after a slight right turn, the answer is this. I am repeating myself. Communication is hard work. It takes energy on the part of the communicator and energy on the part of listener, to make it understood. That means, questions need to be asked if something is unclear.

As the writer of the this blog, I wish to be real clear. However, if I am not, how about writing a question back using a full sentence with a subject, etc. and let's take it from there. What do you think?

The Social Life of an "Older" Woman

I have found it interesting to be an "older" woman, (meaning I have passed the age of 60) to be both curious, sometimes confusing, satisfying, extremely curious (again) and a real case of dealing with the unknown. Therefore, I will call it challenging.

I have found that there are so many different men out "there" who would like to meet Ms Right, so to speak, however, it makes me curious that some would expect "Ms Potential Right" to suddenly be available as if she just dropped out of the sky and doesn't have an existing active life.

So, my men and lady friends, how does one, very active, over 60 woman go about making this work? Don't we all realize that new friendships need to grow and to grow takes time. It's not a lot different than growing a plant in one's garden. We plant it, water it, feed it and watch it grow. I think then, that all new friendships with intentions of future closeness, need the same type of nurturing.

I wonder what others think and welcome all comments!!

See Things the Way They Really Are

We have a way of wishing. We wish things "could" be different. We use the words, "should've, could've and would've" as if they are real! They are not. I tell my clients and friends that those three words need to be taken from the dictionary and general use.

Do we want to be in reality? Well, then, let's remove those 3 words from our vocabulary, starting today and begin to see things clearly.

This means we do not use our memories of yesterday, our assumptions of today and our worries about tomorrow. We see things AS THEY ARE!! My mentor, hypnosis teacher and friend, Dr. T., taught me this and what a lesson to learn.

I think that if you try this concept you will find more peace in your life. Try it for a few days and let me know how you do. Can't wait to hear from you!

Honesty again

I have heard recently that more people are stating that my comments here don't mean anything to them. I am told that I am not saying anything. Well....I have read my published comments over and over and I believe that I am saying a lot. However, a lot to me could mean nothing to someone else. We all have a different view on subjects and my hope was that some of you out there would post your views either in agreement or disagreement with mine! Come on guys. Say something, please? Family, friends??? I have to start somewhere. Honesty is a big one for me so watch for more of my thoughts on honesty in communication. I am finding that people hold back the truth of what they are thinking or feeling because of not wanting to ruffle someone's feathers or hurt someone's feelings. How can we be real with each other, if that is the thinking?

Stream of Consciousness

It seems that some people find my posts difficult to understand because of the way I phrase my thoughts. I realize that I am an abstract thinker and that my thoughts are often-times expressed in what is commonly called "stream of consciousness". It would be helpful and interesting to know what my readers think of this.

All of the subjects I have brought up for discussion, are, in my mind, worth discussing. I think it would be just great for my readers to let me know if the so-called "stream" gets out of control, and that something would be better said, if paraphrased. Okay; this is a test! Can I have some responses? Thank you! I'd really appreciate it. Remember what I said early on? Communication is hard work!

joniknows

joniknows

Communication

I happened to be discussing my blog's content last night with my son.
His attitude or thinking about my writing style is this: I don't understand what you are saying and no matter how many times I read it, I don't get it, so how then, can I comment? Well, well. Let's look at it this way.

I think that communication is hard work. Whether it is oral or written, making oneself understood to the reader or the listener is indeed a lot of work. This blog is concerned with things that many people do not think about in the average day. Why is that? Well, it is probably because I was born thinking about these things and all people are born differently. Some folks think about what the weather will be, or what the next door neighbor is doing in the yard, or what they will have for their next meal. I, on the other hand, have spent my thinking life, thinking about subjects that others tend NOT to think about. (We will not comment on my weirdness now, will we, RHI? So...to return to communication being hard work after a slight right turn, the answer is this. I am repeating myself. Communication is hard work. It takes energy on the part of the communicator and energy on the part of listener, to make it understood. That means, questions need to be asked if something is unclear.

As the writer of the this blog, I wish to be real clear. However, if I am not, how about writing a question back using a full sentence with a subject, etc. and let's take it from there. What do you think?